Relationships and Getting Along With Others

Roommates. Classmates. Friends. Romantic partners. At UB, you may interact with hundreds or even thousands of people each semester. Here are some ways to help ensure you have healthy, productive relationships.

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Roommate Issues

The biggest mistake roommates make is not discussing a problem as it develops. If something is bothering you, talk to your roommate about it.

If you and your roommate are having problems living together, there are many things you can do to improve your relationship — even if you have different cultures and lifestyles. It’s important for everyone to communicate their expectations, respect each other, and realize that this is an opportunity for growth. You may even discover that you have more in common than you think.

Romantic Relationships

Whether you have a long-distance relationship, you’re dating someone on campus, or you prefer to have casual relationships, balancing a relationship with everything else in your life can be stressful at times. We encourage you to attend a workshop or talk with someone if you need help with relationship issues.

Mediation

Are you having a conflict with someone? UB partners with the Center for Resolution and Justice to offer a mediation program for students, faculty and staff. Through this service, you can work with a neutral mediator to resolve a dispute or conflict you’re having with someone, whether they’re part of the University community or not.

Types of Disputes Appropriate for Mediation

Mediation can be helpful for many common situations involving behavior or property, including (but not limited to):

  • Roommate disagreements
  • Residence hall and apartment issues
  • Workplace issues
  • Noise complaints
  • Missing or damaged property
  • Disagreements among students, or between students and instructors
  • Relationship and family issues
  • Monetary disputes
  • Student group disputes, including fraternities and sororities (either internally or between organizations)

How Mediation Works

Mediators from the Center for Resolution and Justice will coordinate the mediation and be available to meet with parties either on or off campus.

During the mediation process, you will:

  • Tell your story
  • Address your feelings, issues and concerns
  • Identify the issues
  • Brainstorm possible resolutions
  • Work with the mediator and the other party to create a mutually acceptable agreement

The mediation process is collaborative, voluntary and confidential. It is designed to promote communication and understanding, which increases the chances that both parties will leave the process satisfied.

Request Mediation

If you are interested in mediating a dispute you can contact Student Conduct and Advocacy for a referral, or contact the Center for Justice and Resolution directly.

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